I've been brainstorming a few different ways to help heal a broken heart--so read it and (don't) weep!
1. Cry. Unfortunately, there is no shortcut to happiness. Sometimes we just need to be miserable for a while. So cry if you feel like it! Punch a pillow! Rip stuff up! Just make sure it's nothing important first!
2. Clear out the stuff. All of the stuff. Throw away that teddy bear he gave you at the carnival. Rip the pictures off your bulletin board. Destroy anything and everything in your posession that reminds you of him. Bye bye! Re-reading old letters or text messages over & over again won't do you any good, it will only prolong your misery and pour salt on the wounds. As much as it sucks, the first step to letting go of him is to let go of all his stuff. Yes, even the expensive stuff. (But you might wanna sell that instead.)
3. Keep busy! This tip should probably be #1, because it sure does work wonders! (Hell, what do you think I'm doing right now? Writing a blog about breakups during my breakup to help me get over my breakup. Phew!) It could be writing like me, hangin' out with friends, shopping with your momma, jogging, reading, creating, watching movies, talking on the phone, running on the treadmill, watching the Bad Girl's Club, texting, cooking, absolutely anything! Just as long as you're doing something. Idle hands are the Devil's playthings. Which translates into--If you sit around & do nothing, you're bound to think about him. Which leads to calling him. Which leads to other bad things. So keep yourself busy, sista!
5. Watch a comedy. A few Summers back, I had my heart crushed and stepped on by a boy I was absolutely crazy about. I was devastated. I kid you not, the only thing that dried my tears during that horrible time was the movie "Funny People." It just happened to be playing on FX as I was trying to drown my sorrows in a looooong nap... but I couldn't resist watching it. And before I knew it, I had completely forgotten about my unfortunate reality for a good 90 minutes or so. Hell, the movie wasn't even that funny--but anything lighthearted and comedic is like a painkiller for a hurting soul. Laughter is such a comfort. Even if you feel like you might not laugh again for another ten years, just try it--what do you have to lose?
7. Make a change. Once you get over the snot-nosed-red-cheeked-puffy-eyed stage of the breakup, the next step is to begin moving on with your life. A lovely way to accomplish that is to make a change. Dye your hair the color you've always wanted. Buy yourself a new outfit and screw the cost. (Just this once!) Re-arrange your furniture. Get a spa pedicure. Bust your ass at the gym. Get out of your city. Get back in touch with old friends & family. It could be anything, no matter how huge or tiny. Nobody is holding you back from blossoming into the person you want to be, and now's the perfect time to start your journey.
8. Forget about revenge. Do things because they make YOU happy and because YOU want to do them. Not because it will make him mad, or make him jealous, or because you want revenge. No matter how bad he hurt you, there's no point in attempting to get even. Don't stoop down to his level, stay up at yours. After all, the best revenge is a happy life. Hold your head high, recognize that it's his loss--not yours--and remember girl... It ain't nothin' but a hair flip.
9. Promise yourself to stay away--and keep your promises. You are now single for a reason. The longer you drag out the breakup, the longer you will be miserable. Sure, I understand! All you wanna do is go back to what's familiar. To hug him, talk to him on the phone, or smell his cologne one more time. Just one more time. But that one time will turn into two, then three, then forever if you don't learn to let go. It will be hard, but it's not impossible. Stay away. And if it's really, truly meant to be... It will happen someday.
10. Flirt. I don't care what anybody says, a little flirting never hurt anyone. Talkin' with a new dude after your old one made you feel like crap will do wonders for your self-esteem. It's not a crime, and it doesn't make you a slut. In fact, it's one of the only things thats keeping me sane at the moment. I'm still hurt, but having a boy who treats me good waiting on the other end sure puts a light at the end of this tunnel. On the flip side, getting serious or sleeping with someone 30 seconds after a breakup isn't the best idea in the world. Keep it light, happy and without any strings attached--until your ready to attach them again, that is!