Showing posts with label confidence. Show all posts
Showing posts with label confidence. Show all posts

Sunday, October 2, 2011

Stretch Marks & Tummies & Boobs, Oh My!


     Take a look at this photograph. Take a good, hard look at it. What do you see? Do you see a beautiful, statuesque lady or a chunky, plus sized woman? Do you see an ordinary person or an overweight one? As I was studying for my Mass Media Communications class lastnight, I came across this photo in the textbook. Her name is Lizzie Miller, and she is a... GASP! Ordinary woman! Unheard of, right?! This was one of the first photographs of a real, untouched, average sized woman to ever be published in a mainstream consumer magazine. Not surprisingly, the photo sparked a national debate soon afterwards. There were thousands of rants & raves. Some people adored the woman & others were repulsed by her. The magazine's editors were flooded with positive comments- so many comments that they even considered changing the "look" of models they'd normally use on their covers. Although the majority of the responses were good ones, some people were strangely angered by the smiling woman. One reader of the magazine even went so far as to say the photo "...shamelessly promoted obesity, which is already enough of a problem in America." If this picture is what promoting obesity looks like, well... I don't have anything to say about that one.
     Nevertheless, the photo remains a media milestone whether people like it or not. As for me, I was absolutely glowing with happiness as I read about the model in my textbook. The mainstream consumer magazines are finally seeing the beauty in the ordinary! I rejoiced as I read more & more about the photograph, but here's the sickening part. As ashamed as I am to say this, my first thought upon seeing this photo was... fat. This woman is obviously not fat, not even chunky. She is our neighbor, she is our teacher, she is our sister. She is an ordinary woman. Even though I'm fully aware of this, there seems to be a little voice in the back of my head that tells me she's fat. She has a belly roll, so she's fat. She has stretch marks, so she's fat. She's not a size zero, so she's fat. It's sickening that the media has pounded so many images of stick skinny girls and skeletor models into my mind that my subconscious still tells me that the woman in this picture is fat. 
     I'm a fairly intelligent young girl with a normal sized figure, so I'm not really sure how I let the media drill these ideas into my head. It's pretty unnerving. Our generation still has a glimmer of hope, however- with advertisements such as Dove's "Campaign for Real Beauty," in which models of every shape, size, and race are pictured together in their underwear. This is how women should be portrayed- as the lovely, curvy, voluptuous ladies they truly are!
     As for the stick thin ghosts we see in magazines on a daily basis? Hate to break it to you, but nobody actually looks like they do in those perfectly perfect photos, not even the models. Yep, the media has set a standard so utterly impossible that even the girls in the pictures can't measure up. Although I still struggle with accepting my own body at times, I'm starting to see the truth behind all this skinny-minny model crap. I weigh 125 pounds (on a good day) and stand at 5 feet & 6 inches tall. Every time I visit the doctor, my BMI score hits the chart right in the middle. My height and weight are, quite literally, perfectly proportional! But this doesn't mean my whole body is perfect- I have stretch marks along my inner thighs. I have belly fat when I sit down. I have 46 freckles on one arm alone. My thighs touch each other, and my arms will most definitely jiggle if you slap them. I am not a photoshopped image. I am not perfect. I am a real human being. But you know what? I absolutely adore it. 

     Oh, and just for the record... Being a white girl with a booty is pretty freakin' awesome! 
Cheers to all the real-life women out there, and have a lovely evening/day/night!

Friday, September 16, 2011

About LoveZofo

Hello! My name is Zoe & I'm here to spread a message of happiness and self-love throughout the blog-o-sphere! Living your life solely to please the people around you is so 1950's. It's time we stop giving a damn about what people think and start appreciating ourselves for the lovely ladies we truly are! I believe in wearing flowers in your hair on a daily basis, dressing up each and every day, eating that ice cream cone you've tried oh-so-hard to avoid, and singing your heart out in the car- Yes, even when you come to a stoplight! I believe that people should do whatever they can to keep a smile on their face. Life's too short NOT to enjoy every minute of it. With that said, LoveZofo serves as an outlet for all the madness that leaks out of my brain on a daily basis. It's full to the brim with my personal photos, wonderful nights, hard lessons learned, random stories, lovely things and plenty of inspiration! For as long as I can remember, I've been constantly searching for tips & tricks to help me write, dress, speak, create, and live better. I'm all about self-improvement. Not because anybody needs improving, but because there's always room to make your life a little bit more magical. My goal is to help girls discover the lovely lady inside, the one that's itching to shine through on the surface. I want to help people out by sharing my knowledge, and hopefully learn a few things myself along the way. I want to spread the message of wild self-love and confidence. Love your beautiful soul and your freckled nose, love your chipped nails and your rosy red cheeks. Love absolutely everything about yourself, and as for the things you're not too fond of? Change 'em! Living a life chock full of passion and excitement isn't found by pure luck, it's a choice we all make each day. What will you choose?